Fashion Dos and don’ts of things you should take note of if you are attending a wedding this Spring

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A lot of brides and grooms are tying the knot this spring. A number of us have already planned the outfits that we will wear, where as some are yet to buy the outfits that are going to wear to the weddings. Weddings have since become a class affair in Zimbabwe and they are there to inspire the single people out there to tie the knot someday.
Dos
 Make sure you look your absolute best so that the couple has good memories of their big day
 Wear comfortable shoes
 Match your accessories, gold accessories with orange, green, red and white and cobalt blue and purple with silver accessories.
 Make an effort to buy a gift for the newly weds
 Try and incorporate at least one of the wedding colours
 Make in time for the ceremony, it the most special part of the wedding
 Respect the wishes of the bride and groom, if they ask you to wear a certain colour, please oblige, you owe them that much
 Wear something appropriate and stylish.
 Observe the wedding etiquette
Don’ts
 Do not wear black, it is too sad.
 Do not wear white, we want the bride to shine, don’t we now ladies.
 Do not wear all the wedding colours if you are not part of the bridal team because you will .look like an extension of the décor.

 No ‘’selfies’’ when the bride is walking down the aisle or during the ceremony.
 No crazy outfits, be they dramatic or tiny ones and ruin the wedding photos.
 Casual is inappropriate, weddings are formal.
 Go out of your way to upstage the bride, it is her day.
 Fight for the bouquet

Go forth and enjoy the weddings that will be invited to
Xoxo Imelda the Fashionista.

DENIM-LICIOUS

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Like diamonds and shoes, denim is also a girl’s best friend. Ripped, acid washed, stone washed, faded, embellished, denim is ‘licious”. Denim is a staple piece in every one’s wardrobe. It is a versatile and timeless piece of fashion and can be dressed either up or down. Denim has been there since the 1920s and it was a trend that was first popular with the cowboys. Denim is available in pants, dresses, shorts, play-suits, jackets and even in the form of accessories from cuffs to clutch bags, earrings, Alice bands, necklaces and even shoes.

Though denim cannot be worn to black tie events, one can still wear them to smart casual parties. The good thing about denim is that one can wear it with any shoes, any color, prints, whether stripes, polka dots or animal prints, or metallic, basically anything that suits you and as an individual and complements your style and personality. The bonus point is that denim comes in different cuts so as to cater for every body shape that is pear, hour glass, curvy and athletic.
Levis has a range whose designs guarantee that that you will get the jeans that fit your body like a glove.

The Levis Curve ID range has four IDs, the slight curve, the Demi curve the Bold curve and the Supreme curve. The slight curve is designed to celebrate athletic figures .Whereas; the Demi curve and the bold curve are designed to hug the waist, without gaping or pulling. The supreme curve is designed for particularly for “bootylicious” women. Women who fall into this category have a narrow waist and a generous booty and usually suffer extreme gaping at the back of the waist and jeans that ride very low when they sit down revealing more than they want to.

Other cuts available are the high waist denim be it a skirt or pants, can be paired with a shirt and heels to pull over the DIVA look .Skinny jeans can be worn with a flowing top whereas the wide leg or flared denim can be paired with a tight tops .The amazing aspect about denim is that can complement any look for any occasion.

The best jeans for your body
HOUR GLASS– Bootlegs flatter this shape. It has clean lines and minimizes bumps and lumps and this cut creates good proportions for your natural curves and most importantly helps balance your hips.
PEAR –Bootlegs flatters this shape because it’s all about flare on the bottom. Skinnies can also work but with only a long top.
APPLE- Try low or mid-rise cuts that do not get close and personal in the mid-section. Skinnies emphasize a slender bottom half and a classic style always wins if it fits perfectly and you add a slightly longer top.
ATHLETIC– Your killer long legs should be the center of attention in structured trouser style. A slight boyfriend cut gives you a cute shape and straight jeans, not too skinny though.

TIPS FOR OCCASIONS
1. To bring out that sailor in you, team your skinny jeans with a stripped navy blue or red top with nautical wedges.
2. For a night out with the girls, throw a sequined jacket with your sky scrapper heels and a clutch bag.
3. For a date, surprise your date with the outfit most guys love the most, jeans and a white T-shirt.
4. For a smart casual party, opt for a formal top and a blazer and eye catching wedges as you might be on our feet the whole time and do not forget your glamorous clutch bag

TIPS WHEN BUYING YOUR DENIMS
1. Before you head to the checkout counter, ask yourself this important question, “can I touch my toes?
2. Also when trying jeans in a store, do the squat test. If your butt peeks out when you sit, then they are not the jeans for you!
3. Keep in mind that jeans stretch after a few wears, so buy a pair that fits you like a glove, the tighter the better.

4. Denim is timeless, no matter how much it costs, it is worth the investment.
5. When you are buying denims the darker ones look fabulous with bright colors, the light and faded ones look fabulous with darker colors and create balance.
*Do not be afraid to pair denim with denim, but if you are wearing a darker denim skirt, pair it with a faded shirt or crop top.

Wash your denims inside out so that they do not fade out

Go forth and look fabulous in your sassy denims.

Xoxo Imelda the Fashionista.

The wedding checklist every woman should have before attending a wedding.

The wedding season is upon us,as women we want to look fabulous at wedding. Apart from enjoying the wedding, some of us have our mini fashion show where we go to see to see the fashion at the wedding. For one to look good at a wedding, they have to plan their outfit and budget for it. Hence it is important for every fashionista to be abreast with the checklist that comes with wedding outfit planning.
1. The shoes
Once you pick out shoe, you can then build an outfit going up. Suppose you pick a platform shoe, it means you will have to show off your gorgeous shoes, so you will have to pick a short dress, or midi dress. If you are to opt for a dress it will have to be a high low dress so that you can show off your shoes. Jumpsuits are also an option with the platform sky scrapper shoes, they are so fashion forward, but do not opt for cotton jumpsuits, they are not formal enough; rather opt for material, that is a bit heavier. If you pick sandals also show them off, show off those gorgeous legs with a short dress and a glamorous clutch bag.
TIP: Pick a comfortable shoe that you will be able to wear all day.

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2. The Dress
Once you have decided on the shoe, it will be easier to pick the dress. If you picked a gold shoe, you will have to wear a white or green or orange or red dress. These colors compliment gold and they look exquisite and they will make you look like royalty. If you opt for silver, you will have to opt for a plum or purple or lilac or cobalt blue dress. The silver shoe will tone down the dark colors. If you are a fashionista and you go with a bright color shoe, try subtle colors like beige, nude or black. With these neutral colors you can match the shoes and the accessories so as to bring all the attention to the shoes.
TIP: Do not wear the decor colors; you are not part of the bridal party or the decor

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3. Hair and make up
You should know what exactly suits you the most. If you have a round face opt for shorter hairstyle like Chanel. If you have a heart shaped face, opt for longer hairstyle. You can opt for your Brazilian weave or a hairstyle that will complement your look. You should also decide where you want a hairstyle with curls that you will have to comb everyday or one that you will not have to comb every day. Go with minimalist, makeup and never apply face powder without applying you foundation. Go with the red lip if you are daring or a neutral lip gloss.
4. Nails
If you can afford you can go with the timeless French tips and match them with your shoes or dress. Or opt for the stick ons you can opt for a timeless or match them with either your dress or shoes. If you are not fond of nails, file your nails and apply some nail polish, but make sure you dry it so that there will be no smudges.
5. Accessories
These include your clutch bag, your earrings, statement ring, necklace and bangles. For you not to look like a hot mess, opt for four accessories instead of five. The clutch bag is compulsory, so you can then choose to for with the earrings and the statement ring and necklace. However do not make the mistake of wearing chandelier earrings with a chunky necklace and a huge statement ring, one of the items ha to be small.
6. A date
Weddings tend to suck if you go there on your own. However if you have a date, it makes it exciting as you will be having someone to chat and dance with.
7. Cash for a cab.
For those that do not have their own rides, it is better to include cash for a cab in your budget. Just in case you get bored or there is an emergency, you will not need to wait for the wedding entourage to go back home. It will prove to the world that you are an independent woman and you will not have to be desperate for transport.
8.The wedding gift.
Since you will be going to the wedding, it will be polite to by the couple a present. When buying a present, buy something that you will like to receive. As you all know ‘Do unto others and you will want them to do unto you’ Do not by a present for the sake of it, but do make an effort. Wrap it nicely so that it looks presentable, or give them cash if you are not sure what they will like.

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Go out there and rock this August wedding season.
Xoxo the fashionista
Imelda

Bringing sexy back with the 5 dresses every woman should have in their wardrobe

Dresses are a staple piece every woman should have in their wardrobe. Dresses are incredibly sexy and feminine. Some men will agree with men that some dresses are really flattering on women’s bodies and they are not only timeless but they are really feminine.Spring is in full swing and every woman should definately have these five dresses this spring,they will make every woman turn green with envy….
1.The shift dress

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The shift dress is a very versatile dress that can be worn from day to night, that means that you can wear it in the morning and then later when you are going out for drinks with friends after work. Also you can also wear a shift dress to church and to weddings. They are very stylish and they can be worn by any woman with anybody shape. If you are not a fan of dresses buy a shift dress in a neutral colour so that you can dress it up or down.
2.The Skater dress

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The skater dress is a flattering dress. It is great for all body types and it is timeless. Its advantage is that it can be dressed up or down. That is you can look super glamorous in stilettoes or comfy wedges, or wear it with sandals or even comfy sneakers .Since it is such a flattering dress It would be an option to get it in a bright colour to lift those spirits.
3.The LBD

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The Little black dress is an essential to everyone’s wardrobe. This is the ultimate party dress. Black is a colour that is forgiving and slimming and has the ability of making one to look incredibly sexy and not overdo it. Any accessories can be worn with this dress. However there have been the introduction of the LWD, little white dress and the LDD, which is the little denim dress if you are not keen about the LBD.
4.The Maxi dress

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This dress goes on forever, whether it is printed, plain, figure hugging or loose, maxi dresses are perfect for spring and summer. The maxi dress looks great if paired with sandals or mid heel wedges, a floppy hat and sunglasses. The perfect occasion would be to wear it when going out shopping. Also opt for it if that special someone wants to introduce you to their family .It is descent yet stylish and in fashion.
5. An evening gown.

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This is also another dress every woman should own. A lot of people have since embraced the idea of night weddings and one has to be prepared for such events. Make sure you purchase a timeless dress preferable a black dress with a unique neckline and a bit of bling, because you want to shine in that gorgeous dress. Make sure you also get stylish clutch bags to match with the dress.
Xoxo Imelda the fashionista

Unleashing the inner vintage vixen in you this spring…

To some fashion is a hobby to other people a career and to some as something that is no-existent. Over the years most women have never been moved by the way they look .With spring in the horizon, its high time women be concerned with the way they look. Spring has lots of events that require women to dress up and look stylish. When picking up outfits women should have two things in mind, to turn women green with envy and for men to just turn and stare.

Vintage clothing is not only stylish but it makes you unique and standout. However one should not make the mistake of wearing vintage from head to toe .It is always better to just use one vintage item, say for example a shift dress. The trick is to find that incredible dress that fits your body like a glove. You can dress it up or down in four ways.

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1. You can rock your vintage dress to work
You can wear your vintage dress with a blazer, pair it with pumps or wedges as you will want to be comfortable the whole day. You can add some glamour to your outfit by adding a cuff and some chandelier earrings and a tote bag to seal your look.
TIP: Do not be afraid to use color, as it will go a long way in bringing life to your outfit.
2. You can also rock your vintage shift dress when you are going out for drinks with the girls
All you have to do is just to slip on your sky high heels, preferably ones with studs or bold colors. Add a stylish clutch bag and a statement ring and you can go out and paint the town red.
3. You can rock your vintage dress to a wedding.
The idea is to look different but stylish, because they are nothing that hurts more than wearing the same outfit as the next person. What you can do is to add a fascinator, matching heels, sunglasses and a clutch bag that big enough so that you can carry your camera and make up. You wouldn’t want to ruin the wedding photos with you smudged lipstick.
3. You can wear your vintage number to church
The trick is to look simple but elegant. So just add earrings, a watch and a stylish handbag and mid heel heels.
Who said looking good should cost a fortune
XoXo Imelda the Fashionista

Closet crisis ….let me solve it for you.

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Most women have a closet crisis week in week out year after year.Its time to break that bad bad to habit.The truth is waking up not knowing what you will wear to school or work can be very stressful,frustrating and nerve wreking.This is another reason why some people are always late for work,school,dates and appointments.It is quite obvious that they will not tell their boss or the person they were supposed to meet that they had a closet crisis,but trust me, they will definitely come up with an excuse.
Here are some tips to help you solve your ‘closet crisis’ .
1.First of all pick out six outfits for the week.The five outfits will take you through from Monday to Friday and the sixth outfit is an emergency or just in case the weather cases or if you change your mind in the morning.
In these outfits make sure that they are diverse and are appropriate for the events,that will be taking place on that day.Pick out a shift dress,a pencil skirt,a pair of slacks,maybe a suit,a mid skirt and matching shirts or tops that will go with the slacks and the skirts and most importantly blazers and cardigans so that you do not catch a cold.Make sure you pick out different colors so that dressing up in the morning will not be dreadful.
2.Pick out 6 pairs of shoes that will match with your outfits.pick a kitten heel,a wedge,a chunky court shoe,a pointy pencil heel,pumps and a sling back heel.Pick shoes that are comfy and that will go with the events that you will be having on that day.if you are to have a board meaning don’t pick the pump but a pointy pencil heel,it will not only make you look great but make you feel powerful that you can conquer the world.
3.pick out your accessories.You have to pick up you earrings,bracelets,belts,wallets.Make sure these accessories do not clash with your outfit but they complement them.The should bring that whimsical charm to you outfit.
4.Pick out at least three handbags that will complement you outfits.The handbag is the cherry on top of your outfit.Pick bags that you will be able to fit all your stuff and not a tiny bag that will make you have to carry a plastic bag{so not appealing} if you are a working woman.A tip is to have cosmetic bag that will contain your makeup kit,wipes,gloss and tissues,that you will just remove from one bag to another and your wallet so that you do not forget anything if you are changing your bags.Also it is always an advantage to switch your bags the night before so that you make sure you packed everything.
5.Also decide on the type of hairstyle that you will want to do the next day,if it’s a pony tail make sure you know where your scrunches are,if you are going to tong or blow dry your hair,know where the dryer and the tong are.
Enjoy a stress free week with no ‘’closet crisis’’ and you are guaranteed that you will be early for work this week.
Xoxo Imelda The fashionista…

DRESSING UP FOR WORK

So many women in the City of Kings and Queens are working women. On a day to day basis we see beautiful ladies on the street looking like walking fashion catastrophes that either look like plain Jane or UGLY BETTY . However, today we are going to try and rectify that…Dressing up for work should always be fun and never a hassle .The four words every woman should have in mind when dressing up for work are elegant, smart ,comfortable and professional. Being an office “fashionista” is simple, though there are a number of things one should consider when dressing up for work.
Every woman wants to be taken seriously at work. To achieve this, always wear a blazer and not a cardigan to meetings. Remember how they insisted that you wear blazers to club meetings in High School or would pay a fine. They meant well because, they were preparing you for the future. The blazer, not only makes you look formal but also to be taken seriously and makes you look like someone who is down for serious business.
The other thing is cleavage, how much is too much. In as much as you would love to showcase your cleavage because you might have been eyeing that “hottie” from work. Cleavage at the office is an acceptable because it is a destruction.”Somethings” ,are best left for the imaginary realm. T- shirts at the office are not acceptable except of course for casual Fridays because the only scream CASUAL..
Also, minimal make up please. A little blusher, nude eye shadow, mascara, lip gloss or lipstick. You would not want to want to look like a piece of canvas that a child has been trying to paint, but has failed dismally. No client would want to walk into a board room to find a clown in the boardroom.
Miniskirts are so like the 90s that have come and gone. They are usually referred to skirts that end where they have just started. Rather opt for pencil skirt ,they are more subtle and elegant. Short things are not office material, we are not there to tempt people, you are there to do your job and earn a living. Then there is tight clothing. Tight clothes are not only uncomfortable, but an accident in waiting. First of all, some of them are so tight that you cannot breathe. A bad combination,however is short and tight, you will consistently be pulling down you dress or skirt and chances are you will have a horrible day. The other thing is you are not sure what to expect, if you are to trip, your clothes are likely to tear and just imagine the embarrassment.
Open shoes like gladiators, slippers, sandals are unacceptable. Remember that good shoes always give every woman confidence to conquer the world. Opt for pumps ,kitten heels or wedges if you are going to be on your feet all day long. You can then swoop to your sky scrapper heels at night when you are going out with your friends.
Accessories bring glitz and glamour to any outfit and make it look fresh and original .For work, opt for a watch than a bracelet, you can swoop it when going to a cocktail party after work. With earrings, you can either wear studs or chandelier earrings as long as you can pull it off. However do not make the mistake of wearing all of them at once. If you are to wear the watch, and the earrings then do not wear the statement ring. ALSO do not forget to balance your accessories, pair a bigger accessory with a smaller accessory. For example, a chunky necklace with studs ,a big watch with a small ring and so on and so forth..
Wear bright colors too they will surely lift up your spirits but keep it professional. Dress up in an outfit that makes you, you and be ready to conquer the world
.Here are the 8 fashion items every working woman should own
• Pencil skirt,a Shift dress,a blazer, a tote bag,court shoes,pumps,wrist watch,crisp white blouse,

Using fashion to boost your confidence.

A lot of women do not consider fashion to be something that can boost their confidence. Fashion has been there for ages and I believe it is high time women from Zimbabwe started looking it from a different perspective. Though some may view fashion as a get rich quick scheme or something that is just a waste of time, I want to urge all the women in Zimbabwe to start taking the aspect of fashion seriously. If we all wear clothes that are made locally, we can all contribute the growth of our economy. That way, we can all support the local fashion industry and a play a part in cutting down on the unemployment rate.
Over the years we have seen fashion take center stage in other countries and it’s high time we did the same. People tend to judge people by the way they dress and trust me, no matter how good, bubbly or amazing you maybe, your character will be over shadowed by the way you dress. If you are a working woman and you dress like you are going to a party, your colleagues will not take you serious as you clearly will not have earned their respect.
I for one consider working women to be the most beings on this planet and they need to ooze confidence where ever they go and the starting point is to dress appropriately. Most of them are role models because probably they lead lives we wish we had or careers we are dying for, and it is high time they inspired us in a fashionable way.
For one to have confidence, it all starts from the mind and then glows to the outside. The first step is to know who you are and believe it, because if you do not believe it no one else will. Women have to bear in mind and tell themselves, that they are beautiful before some else does. This will entail that, it will not come as a shock to them and they will already be knowing that they are beautiful. When that is settled then you can then look at their figure and appreciate the body God gave you and then research on what clothing suits your body shape
There are 5 fashion items that are consider to be confidence boosters.
1. High Heeled shoes
Studies have shown that men tend to want to help women in high heeled shoes as they look powerful. No matter the size of the heel high heeled shoes are just sexy. However buy shoes that you feel comfortable in if you can walk in sky scrapper heels then opt for them, they are incredibly sexy and they make every woman turn green with envy .Wedges are another option very stylish and very comfortable make sure you buy the pair that would have caught your eye first. . Kitten heels are also another option buy them in a bold color as they are very cute and stylish to look at.

2. A Shift dress
This is a timeless and versatile piece as one can wear it to work and for a date after work. Just make sure that you get the dress in the right size, not too small or too big. The dress has to fit you like a glove so that you can accentuate your best features and for you to be comfortable. Make sure you get it in a right color for example red, and this color just makes everyone just look amazing and Bill Blass once said when you are in doubt, wear red.

3. Classy handbag
Just like shoes are like diamonds to women, handbags are also vying for the same spot. Handbags have become an irreplaceable trend. The trick is to buy that handbag you love and that you will probably carry for the next couple of years. If you want to invest in a statement piece then go ahead and do so .The whole idea is to get compliments and in that way it will boost your confidence that you have an eye for fashion.

4. Red lipstick
Red lipstick has been in fashion for as long as I can remember. Growing up, my mother always had red lipstick and it has always gone a long way in boosting my confidence. The trick is to apply it too much, because you will end up looking like make up on a clown gone wrong, so just try and be as minimalist as you can .That way you will look classy and trust me, women around you, will wish they were you and men will wish they were with you.

5. Embellished Clutch bag
A clutch bag is every hand’s best friend and if it is embellished the better. Most women are like princesses and they love a bit of bling . This fashion item is ideal for weddings, cocktail parties, dates and so on and so forth. This bag will go a long way in boosting your confidence as you will definitely get compliments for the bag.

So go ahead and let your hair down and get your confidence back by looking at fashion from a different perspective and be confidently fashionable.

Xoxo Imelda_The Fashionista.

A walk down memory lane….A snippet of how growing up in the 1990 and early 2000’s was like….

So, the other day my sister and I were going through our family album and we were just reliving the moments in the photos. Photos used to be so popular in the 90s and so were a lot of other things. Many of us just cringe, because if it is not the clothes, then it would be the hairstyle or the hideous makeup which definitely needed a make down because it was obviously overdone.
I have to admit that growing up in the 90s and early 2000s was a blast. I remember how dolly dresses and pallazzos were the clothing items in fashion. They came in the most bizarre colors and they looked like a bad color day. Not forgetting the gigantic flowers that were in bright colors that made you scared that a swarm of bees would attack you. The pallazzo pants were always too wide but very fashionable .I vividly remember that my mother had a black and white suit of pallazzo pants and she used to wear the suit with black spice gals sandals, John Oakley glasses and a DK sling bag, she did look fashion forward then, but now she just cringes when she sees that photo. Whilst others were rocking shapeless dolly dresses others rocked the pleated skirts.
Some were quite nice but the moscrepe ones were hideous and were a NO!! NO!! especially for those “abangamatsha/ matshapa” Whilst women were rocking these trends, men were rocking the printed and plain viscose shirts and power tennis shoes, gosh they were so fugly (funny+ ugly=fugly). I hated those with a passion, for some reason my father thinks they were super cool. Funny enough I think most men just loved this trend with bell bottom trousers that were so tight that you would think the men were paralyzed from the waist down. Then they were the Afros that did not die a natural death in the seventies. So shiny and some shapeless and drooling will styling gel.#yuck. When my sister and I go through our father’s photos we just burst into fits of laughter and for some reason, he thinks we are not fashion frenzy.#soridadfashionfromthe70swashorrible
Besides the fashion, the hairstyles were also one thing that fascinated me with the 90s.Women loved to perm their hair and up to this day, the smell of perm is like a sewage it’s a good thing that it didn’t make it in the 2000s. My mother used to take us to the saloon to blow our hair. I still do not get what good that did to my hair. It just made my Afro bigger and easy to comb and gosh I just hated the smell. Then there was the set hairstyle that looked like a bird’s nest and I even wonder what was so unique about that hairstyle .I remember rocking this hairstyle at my preschool graduation. Gosh, I hate that photo, so so much, but I looked cute. Men rocked the famous “punk” box cut, English cut. I just wonder why the barbers left that patch of hair on the poor men’s head, making them look the cocks.
Then there was the makeup, you would swear that it was a clown at first glance or maybe a canvas, a child was experimenting on. The red lipstick was very popular and so was the blusher that made people look like ‘omaqanda phokolo”.
Apart from the fashion there was the music and the dance styles. The artists most popular in the 90s were the Soul Brothers, Lovemore Majaivana, Leonard Dembo and various bands, my dad and my uncle used to love the Soul Brothers and I remember at family gatherings that, this was the music that was played the most. In the early 2000s there was Arthur Mafokade with the hit ‘Mnike” .This song rocked the airwaves and I remember my sister and I begging (okay begging is understating it)Our mother bought us the radio cassette so that we could be able to listen to it whenever we wanted to and not wait for the DJ to play for us on the radio
Mnike came with various dance styles, the twalatsa, and tsipa, get down. The twalatsa must have made people‘s calves hurt because the dance required them to stand on their toes and trust me ,looking at it now it just looked like a ballerina dance gone wrong. The tsipa dance required the dancer to leap in the air and come to startling halt, pulling the dress and the pants so as to reveal their tootsie pop, only for them to vibrate their tootsie pop a few times and the dance was over. I still do not get why there was so much fuss of leaping in the air and why they wasted so much energy for a dance that would last for 30 seconds tops.
Then there was the food. I remember how cafes were so on trend; most people wanted to meet for lunch or breakfast at the dingy cafes .Most of them were located along Lobhengula Street. The children used to love eating the yellow buns and drinking their soft drinks from the bottle. During the eating most of the bun would go into the bottle than into their stomachs. When they were done eating there would be what we used to call ‘divers” in the bottles of the soft drinks, the particles of the yellow buns. Who can forget Renkini when the legendary yellow buns are mentioned; A popular treat among those on their way back to the rural areas.
They were also the famous doinks, the Jupiter snacks, the Victoria cracker jax, biscuit crumbles“inkumane”. I remember that at Lion Stores they had cool drinks that were in colorless bottles shaped in any toy you could think of. For some reason I think parents bought us the drinks because they are a bargain, a toy and juice at the same time. Many mothers did try to discourage us from buying biscuit crumbles from the vendors, but all their efforts were to no avail. I mean come on; they were not always where we were.
There they were the everlasting sweets from Lobels, they were two types, the brownish one and the greenish one…Boy, I used to love those sweets, and if my mother or teacher caught me eating the sweet, I would hide it in my jersey or blazer pocket. When I wanted to eat it later, it would be having some fuzzy God knows what stuff. I would briefly try to pluck some of the things and quickly shove into my mouth… I really enjoyed my childhood.
Then there was the issue of losing pencils at school. My mother did not tolerate any carelessness and in the 90s, parents could beat the hell out of their children and it was never called child abuse. But they always insisted that the bible gave them the right to hit the hell out of me. Trust me it was quite a punishment but it made me who I am today….A law abiding citizen.

Before the beating came, you fore warned a couple of times and with a string of comments and the “talking eyes”. The comments that were most popular were, I can see these days you are gaining weight for the rod” ngiyakubona these days usunonela ugodo, ngizakulungisa”. This comment was enough to make you miss meals for a couple of days as you feared to be beaten up. But you know how it is, mischief and I never got divorced, it would follow me and my mother would give me hiding. Swift, fast, with pauses and comments and warnings, what you did wrong, when with who and why. I miss being a child when it comes to making decisions but I do not miss the beatings.

Then they were the rhetoric questions you could not answer. If you answered yes you would get beaten and vice vesa. At times keeping quiet was also regarded as a sign of disrespect. An example was the statement “Am I mad”, if you said yes it would be death at a funeral for you and if you said no, you would be asked why you did what you did what you and get the hiding. If you kept quiet, you would be regarded as a disrespectful child who was stubborn and growing too big for their boots.

Then there were the Christmas celebrations. If you did not go to the rural areas, the rural folk would come and visit. They would bring goats and chickens to add on to the Christmas feast. This was the one time, a child could eat a drumstick and go and dance with their friends at the shops. This time of the year gave us the privilege of asking for money” Christmas box” from our parents, friends and families without being given a death stare…Christmas meant getting a set of new clothes without asking for them, most parents used to buy the clothes, several months prior to the big day. They always claimed to be saving as the prices would be sky rocketing in November after everyone had got their bonus at work.

I remember that there were the grocery clubs. Our parents would team up with a few of their friends and contribute money every month and buy some groceries that would be share d equally in December. They were always some crooks that would use the stuff if was kept in their house and it would be discovered on the day of the sharing. Hell would break loose on that that and you would be guaranteed a fight unless there was someone who stopped the fight. Pity some people always step up in the wrong moment.

I had almost forgotten the games that we used to play. We would ask for coins so that we could play the Foosball but we called it “islug”. It was mostly played by the boys because it was more of a soccer game. They would bet and who ever won would be hailed the champion of the weekend and them tasting the glory, they would want to hang on to it. In the high density suburbs the popular games were “mamtshayana” ,”mam 25”,”mamfiller”,”ara”,”scotch scotch”. We would play these games all day and not once return home for a meal. Our parents would have to call us a couple of times before we could come home.

In most cases we would come back home in the evening so that we could bath, have supper and go to bed because we would be so tired. Like in every game they were the champions and everyone’s blood would be boiling when the team head would start selecting members from their team. Everyone wanted to be picked “ukupikwa” because no one wanted to be a remainder. Being a remainder meant that you were the unwanted or were the worst player. This also meant that you could be eliminated fast and first and you were the one who paved way for the stronger players so that they could win the game and you could get to play again…

Then there was the famous Ezomgido musical show hosted by Eric Knight and John Phiri. You would dance till joints hurt. The presenters were likely to play 90% of the songs you knew by heart. Most families were very supportive and most nicknames emanated from this show. The current one is not as interesting as the one in the 90s.
Then probably nothing anyone wants people to remember, that is the nicknames. Grandmothers were the ones that usually gave us nicknames and it could be anything whether it was your favorite show, musician, dance, or if you made a mistake of a certain word, then that would be your nickname. I remember my cousin was nicknamed “fawketts” after he failed to pronounce the word Fawcetts. We would laugh till the cows came home…

Then there was the mode of transport. Back then they were no kombis they were the Peugeot 504s.You had to make sure you would sit in the seats if you knew what was good for you. This is because, if you sat at the back, you would have to sit uncomfortably crisscrossing with other passengers. If it was not your lucky day, you would board a dirty Peugeot, the other passengers would be constantly stepping on your dress and you would get to town or home as dirty as ever.
I still think that growing up in the 90s and early 2000s was a blast…Care to share your own experiences.

Boot_licious

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Summer and autumn have come and gone and it is time to say hello to winter. Now, winter is one of the trickiest seasons to dress for in Zimbabwe and I know most of the women will agree with me on this one. The weather is just unpredictable as it can be freezing cold in the morning and towards noon it will be scorching hot and there you are in town with your winter clothes will be looking like a complete dweeb with your coat and boots. Most women own more summer clothes than winter clothes because the winter season in Zimbabwe is not as harsh as other countries. Boots have since become popular in Zimbabwe especially the suede ones and leather ones. Boots are the most common foot wear during this season and whether they are thigh high, long, ankle, flat, or high heeled these shoes are a must have this season. The other day I spotted a few pairs at one of Bata Zimbabwe stores and a few boots at the flea market stalls and I knew that winter was here. The more boots you have the merrier, I mean hey, a girl can never have enough shoes right. Every woman has to rock the boot-licious trend this winter and here are a few tips to rock those amazing shoes. Long boots If you are wearing long boots and you are wearing a skirt, make sure the skirt is above your knees and if they are thigh high boots, make sure that the skirt is shorter than the boots. If you are wearing the boots with the pants, skinny jeans are a better option as you can easily tuck them in. Short boots Short boots look exquisite with midi skirts/dresses and long dresses and skirts. One can also rock these shoes with pants whether they are skinnies, bootleg or boyfriend jeans. These boots are super stylish. Every woman should at least one of these cute shoes in their closet. Shoots. These are a combination of shoes and boots. They became popular few years back and these are a magnificent creation. These boots are fashion forward and are a must have this season. High heeled boots These are so on trend right now but I would suggest that if you are to buy a pair that is high heeled, try on the pair and make sure you are comfortable and you can walk in them. This is because shoes are meant to be comfortable. If they are not then ditch them and buy that something that you are comfortable in. You would rather opt for a smaller heel or wedges. Leather boots Leather boots are timeless and are worth every penny of your hard earned cash. The trick is to buy a pair that you will wear for the next couple of year. If you are always on your toes opt for the flats that have a simple design. Leather boots are also easy to maintain as you have to take good care of them. Suede boots. These are also timeless but they tend to fade out over time especially the ‘fong Kong’ ones. You will have to figure out a way to take care of them, so as to make them last longer. As for the high heeled boots, please replace the tips when they wear off .You do not want to walk around sounding like there is a woodpecker on your soles of your feet. Not fashionable at all# side eye Things to consider when going shopping for boots Am I comfortable in them? Do they boost my confidence? Are they worth the investment? Do they match my style? Are they my size? Can I walk in them? With these pointer and tips, let’s go out there ladies and rock the Boot_licious trend and turn heads. XoXo the Fashionista