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Children are indeed the sweetest beings on earth and childhood memories are one of the most precious memories that we possess. Children can be naughty and go off track but it is the duty of the parent to monitor their child’s behavior and find out the root cause of why they are behaving in that certain manner. However there are five warning signs that you should look out for in your children that are red flags that your child is in trouble and be ready. http://www.webmd.com suggests that you play detective and look closely at your child’s actions and the factors that might be driving them.
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1. They are violent.
All of a sudden they are very violent. When you try to have a conversation with them they want to beat you up. If they are playing with their friends or siblings and they disagree on something, they want to solve everything with being violent.
2. They are extremely quiet.
Your children do not want to have any conversation about anything with anyone; they cut themselves from the rest of the world. They just keep to themselves and focus on nothing but themselves. http://drphil.com . Dr. Phil says this is a red flag. If your teen starts withdrawing from you or your spouse, there’s a reason. As a parent, it’s your responsibility to identify what’s behind the change.
3. They withdraw themselves from the rest of the world.
They never want to go anywhere, they became housebound. If you mention going out they throw tantrums and they do not want to go to play dates, sports or visit relatives. Be worried and try and do a little digging about why they are having this behavior, it could be because they are being bullied hence they think they cannot fit in.
4. Their eating habits change.
This can be in two ways, eating a little, if you pack their lunch box, they always come back full and it seems that they never ate a single crumb of bread. If you ask them whether they are hungry they say no and only eat what they like only or say they are full.
OR They can be eating a lot that makes you question whether they are eating because they find comfort in food. They just seem to eat when they are angry or depressed only.
5. They are very emotional.
If you try and talk to them about anything, they start crying, yelling and screaming. If you ask what I wrong, they tell you to leave them alone.
Parents do look out for these five warning signs and if you feel your child cannot talk to you ask someone they are close to talk to them
Growing up the only thought that came to my mind when I thought of parents was immerse love for their children, security and wanting the best for their children. But it is so shocking how this just changes especially when some of them go outside the country, to the famous “eGoli”. They always seem to forget about what made them leave Zimbabwe in the first place. They just forget that their children need to be fed, go to school, get clothes and get a descent shelter. I don’t know if there is something in South Africa that just brainwashes people and they just forget their responsibilities.
Some even have the nerve to even give their children to strangers called “omalayitshiya” to come and give their parents their babies so that they can take care of their children. I do not know who introduced the trend that grandparents are the ones that should take care of children instead of the child’s parents. What makes matters worse is that some of them even go to the extent of not communicating with their families to find out how their children are or if they are doing well at school. And they expect their children to squeal with joy when they come back from South Africa with absolutely nothing. Some even fail to just send their children’s health cards and some go to the extent, of changing their names and acquiring a different identity. Whatever happened to being proud of who you are and where you come from?
In some cases, the parents take off to the famous “eGoli” without obtaining birth certificates for their children. I mean come one who does that. I for one believe that this is irresponsibility at its highest level. How does your child go to school without one? I honestly do not blame children who despise their parents because their literally shatter their children’s future.
Not all children are gifted academically and some are talented in sports. No child is allowed to compete outside the school house competitions unless they have a birth certificate. Imagine the disgusted look on your child’s face when they are told that they cannot go and compete. If they are even unluckier they will not write their grade seven examinations, and if they are lucky they will not have any luck writing their Ordinary level examinations this leading them to drop out of school.
This usually results in prostitution, unwanted pregnancies, crime and a whole lot of other things because they cannot get any job anywhere because they do not have birth certificates which then enable them to get IDs.
If you did not know, the Birth and Death Registration Act states in chapter 5:02 Section 11 : 2 (a) states that provides that the registration has to be done within 42 days of the birth. The liability for registration is with the parents of the child.
I just wish something could be done to enforce this clause probably stiffer penalties so as to nudge parents in the right direction to registering their children before 6 weeks. This would go a long way in shielding children from being vulnerable and cut down on the poverty rates and at the same time, not shatter our children’s future.
Also let us remember that it is the sole duty of the parents to register and not anyone else. Single mothers, I know there are those undecided fathers who take up forever to make up their minds whether the child is theirs or not. Just go and register the child on your own. Women are the ones that have the right to register their children on their own anyway. Let’s be responsible parents and protect our children.