Are you the office door mat. How to earn respect

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Starting a new job and being promoted can be both enticing and nerve wrecking. In most cases, you do not know how to behave and how to relate to your colleagues. If you are new at the office, you will try by all means to fit it and at time you feel as though you don’t fit in at the office. You may want to dress up or dress down so that you are at the same level with your colleagues. If you have been promoted you may feel as if you owe your colleagues allegiance and be nice to them and those that disliked you are likely not to be much of a bother.

If you are door mat in most instances you are highly likely not to want to step on other people’s toes or take sides because you want to be neutral. highlight that you should ‘’be the master of your own career’’. By doing this you will not have to bend over to please your colleagues. You will earn respect if you focus on your work and being a master at what you do and you have to believe that you can do it better with the skills and knowledge that you have acquired.

If you are always doing your colleagues’ work and having to knock off late is definitely a red flag that you might have to think over. You may be is serious trouble with your boss and you will have a lot of explaining to do. You have to earn respect by putting your foot down. There is always a bright side to everything,. you have to learn things all over again. Also consider opting to give you colleagues’ advice or assist them instead of doing their work for them.

Another red flag is constantly having  to cover for your colleague who is always late or who goes out during business hours. You can cover for them if it is an emergency but you should never go to the extent of lying about it. For you to earn respect according to you should Say “No” More, “Yes” Less. You simply advice your colleague to report to their supervisor that way none of you will get into trouble and risk being fired.

If there is an office rumor that is out of hand and your colleague blame you for it, you should not take it lying down. If you do, all rumors are likely to be pinned at you. To earn respect, keeping your cool and confront who ever burst the bubble.

Put your best foot forward and don’t be a door mat.
Xoxo Imelda the Fashionista

The three ways you can look fabulous on a shoe string budget

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Clothes are very essential to a lot of women, but the problem is that, most of us cannot afford to buy clothes for every occasion. Some people have busy lifestyles that require them to buy clothes for every occasion. Today we are going to explore the three options that one can opt for so that, look fabulous on a shoe string budget.
1. The swap party

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A swap party is when friends gather and swap clothes that they no longer wear. Everyone has that one thing that they do not wear and yet their friend maybe having an eye on. At a swap party you can exchange clothes, handbags and even accessories. Giving away something that you do not use anymore will mean that you will get something new to wear to the next party,    lunch date or dinner date. They are however some certain aspects one has to consider when picking out items for a swap party
• Do not take rags ,you want to leave the party happy and so does the next person
• Take something that you like but you do not wear the next person can wear and use
2. Go vintage and be a vintage vixen.

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Thrift stores are relatively cheap as one can get clothes ranging from a $1 to $10. With thrift stores, you can find a very unique item that is either new or that has been worn before. If the clothing item is too big you have an option of taking it to the tailor for alterations and you are guaranteed that you will be the only girl in that stunning outfit.
• Do not buy an item that has too many stains, it will end up costing more as you will have to take it to a dry cleaner.
• Try and get outfits that are your size so that you can cut the expense of involving a tailor
• When going to a thrift shop be patient as they may be a lot of stuff to go through
3. Engage a tailor


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They are occasions where one wants to be the center of attention. In this particular instance you can draw a sketch or cut out a couple of pictures from a magazine. Thereafter you can then go to the tailor and ask for advice on which material is best for that particular design. This option is cheap as you only have to purchase the material then pay the tailor his or her services
• Go with a tailor you are familiar with, you would not want to use someone who will not only mess your design but waste your material.
• Make sure that tailor took the correct measurements, if you want say a long dress wear a shoe with a heel so that they have the correct length that you want
• If you have never used the tailor’s services, insist on looking at that previous work so that you can decide whether you want to use them or not.

So go ahead and explore these three ways of looking fabulous on a shoe string budget…

xoxo Imelda The Fashionista