Growing up the only thought that came to my mind when I thought of parents was immerse love for their children, security and wanting the best for their children. But it is so shocking how this just changes especially when some of them go outside the country, to the famous “eGoli”. They always seem to forget about what made them leave Zimbabwe in the first place. They just forget that their children need to be fed, go to school, get clothes and get a descent shelter. I don’t know if there is something in South Africa that just brainwashes people and they just forget their responsibilities.
Some even have the nerve to even give their children to strangers called “omalayitshiya” to come and give their parents their babies so that they can take care of their children. I do not know who introduced the trend that grandparents are the ones that should take care of children instead of the child’s parents. What makes matters worse is that some of them even go to the extent of not communicating with their families to find out how their children are or if they are doing well at school. And they expect their children to squeal with joy when they come back from South Africa with absolutely nothing. Some even fail to just send their children’s health cards and some go to the extent, of changing their names and acquiring a different identity. Whatever happened to being proud of who you are and where you come from?
In some cases, the parents take off to the famous “eGoli” without obtaining birth certificates for their children. I mean come one who does that. I for one believe that this is irresponsibility at its highest level. How does your child go to school without one? I honestly do not blame children who despise their parents because their literally shatter their children’s future.
Not all children are gifted academically and some are talented in sports. No child is allowed to compete outside the school house competitions unless they have a birth certificate. Imagine the disgusted look on your child’s face when they are told that they cannot go and compete. If they are even unluckier they will not write their grade seven examinations, and if they are lucky they will not have any luck writing their Ordinary level examinations this leading them to drop out of school.
This usually results in prostitution, unwanted pregnancies, crime and a whole lot of other things because they cannot get any job anywhere because they do not have birth certificates which then enable them to get IDs.
If you did not know, the Birth and Death Registration Act states in chapter 5:02 Section 11 : 2 (a) states that provides that the registration has to be done within 42 days of the birth. The liability for registration is with the parents of the child.
I just wish something could be done to enforce this clause probably stiffer penalties so as to nudge parents in the right direction to registering their children before 6 weeks. This would go a long way in shielding children from being vulnerable and cut down on the poverty rates and at the same time, not shatter our children’s future.
Also let us remember that it is the sole duty of the parents to register and not anyone else. Single mothers, I know there are those undecided fathers who take up forever to make up their minds whether the child is theirs or not. Just go and register the child on your own. Women are the ones that have the right to register their children on their own anyway. Let’s be responsible parents and protect our children.
Originally posted on Longreads: Not everything about #YesAllWomen makes me proud. I am particularly bitter, and disappointed, that it did not live up to its name and its promise. As a marginalized woman, even I could not provide a safe…
Summer and autumn have come and gone and it is time to say hello to winter. Now, winter is one of the trickiest seasons to dress for in Zimbabwe and I know most of the women will agree with me on this one. The weather is just unpredictable as it can be freezing cold in the morning and towards noon it will be scorching hot and there you are in town with your winter clothes will be looking like a complete dweeb with your coat and boots. Most women own more summer clothes than winter clothes because the winter season in Zimbabwe is not as harsh as other countries. Boots have since become popular in Zimbabwe especially the suede ones and leather ones. Boots are the most common foot wear during this season and whether they are thigh high, long, ankle, flat, or high heeled these shoes are a must have this season. The other day I spotted a few pairs at one of Bata Zimbabwe stores and a few boots at the flea market stalls and I knew that winter was here. The more boots you have the merrier, I mean hey, a girl can never have enough shoes right. Every woman has to rock the boot-licious trend this winter and here are a few tips to rock those amazing shoes. Long boots If you are wearing long boots and you are wearing a skirt, make sure the skirt is above your knees and if they are thigh high boots, make sure that the skirt is shorter than the boots. If you are wearing the boots with the pants, skinny jeans are a better option as you can easily tuck them in. Short boots Short boots look exquisite with midi skirts/dresses and long dresses and skirts. One can also rock these shoes with pants whether they are skinnies, bootleg or boyfriend jeans. These boots are super stylish. Every woman should at least one of these cute shoes in their closet. Shoots. These are a combination of shoes and boots. They became popular few years back and these are a magnificent creation. These boots are fashion forward and are a must have this season. High heeled boots These are so on trend right now but I would suggest that if you are to buy a pair that is high heeled, try on the pair and make sure you are comfortable and you can walk in them. This is because shoes are meant to be comfortable. If they are not then ditch them and buy that something that you are comfortable in. You would rather opt for a smaller heel or wedges. Leather boots Leather boots are timeless and are worth every penny of your hard earned cash. The trick is to buy a pair that you will wear for the next couple of year. If you are always on your toes opt for the flats that have a simple design. Leather boots are also easy to maintain as you have to take good care of them. Suede boots. These are also timeless but they tend to fade out over time especially the ‘fong Kong’ ones. You will have to figure out a way to take care of them, so as to make them last longer. As for the high heeled boots, please replace the tips when they wear off .You do not want to walk around sounding like there is a woodpecker on your soles of your feet. Not fashionable at all# side eye Things to consider when going shopping for boots Am I comfortable in them? Do they boost my confidence? Are they worth the investment? Do they match my style? Are they my size? Can I walk in them? With these pointer and tips, let’s go out there ladies and rock the Boot_licious trend and turn heads. XoXo the Fashionista